Feeling stuck or frustrated and know there should be more to life...?

In my 20s and 30s, I was pretty much in task mode—all the time. And I’m pretty sure that I was not much fun to live with. I had young children, a home and business to run as well. There wasn’t much time for me, I caught up occasionally with friends, which was great, but I had no hobbies, creative outlet, or soul food. Reflecting on those days, I lived my life in total obligation - obliviously so!

It’s taking a lot of thought work for me to change that mindset. To be in the present moment, to allow myself to have fun, and to choose carefully whom I allow in my life and how I spend my time. It didn’t come naturally, and I find that almost a flaw with how the human brain is wired,  I know it doesn’t come naturally to most people. 

Our brains are wired to survive, so being accepted and not ostracised is hard-wired into us. This leads us in creating lives filled with obligations and busyness which stress us, keeping us stuck in task mode. This mindset is disengaging and blocks us from living our best lives.  

So much of that has to do with social & cultural conditioning and all the baggage that comes along with that. Yet most of us are so unaware that many of the thoughts we think are all based on said conditioning.

The crazy thing is, it took me a really long time to remember what it was actually like to have fun as an adult. So I’m really passionate about that now. That’s what I want to create awareness about. What lights you up? What’s fun for you? How do you let go of obligation and decide what’s right for you? 

I’ll let you in on the secret sauce of living well. It’s your job, and yours only, to keep your tank filled up. No one else can do that for you. The irony is that they can empty your tank, if you've not chosen wisely who is in your inner circle, so be selective as they will influence you. 

The other skill to learn is to manage your thoughts, for it is your thoughts that create your feelings, and hear me when I say, every single thing you choose to do is based on how you think you will feel! Knowing this is a game-changer! 

If you had a clean slate in life from this moment onwards, would you choose to have what's in your life right now again? And if not, which parts would you change? All of it? Some of it? Good questions, right? 

Another good question to follow up with is, now that you know the parts you want to change, what’s stopping you from doing that? Do you feel stuck or confused? No idea how to take the first step in making changes?

So what has to change? How do we both be true to ourselves and live in a society that disregards the value of living with integrity? Where fitting in is of higher value than being true to yourself?  I don’t know about you, but I think it’s hard, as it’s not taught at school, and it’s not supported in most cultures or families. In fact, it’s the opposite, and that makes me kinda sad.

If you're feeling frustrated and you'd like to learn more about how this impacts you, I can help you with easy to follow steps that will get you solid results in as little as three months, without the confusion so you can get on with creating a life you don't want to escape.

Simply book in a call with me via my website, I'd love to hear from you!